Now, don’t get me wrong. By perfect I don’t mean it’s all sunshine and rainbows with no conflict or issues.
The Perfect Relationship is far from problem free. But it does hold a sense of freedom.
My husband often tells people that the most loving thing I ever said to him was, “I don’t need you.” When he shares this, he gets all sorts of different reactions from people.
Some nod their head in understanding and others are bewildered by it. One thing is for sure though – I really don’t need my husband.
I do love him unconditionally.
I give him the space to feel and work through whatever he needs to.
I create a safe place for him to share his truth.
I don’t take things personally.
I don’t have secrets.
I share what is in my heart of hearts in the most loving of ways.
And when I fail at any of these things as I do from time to time, I forgive myself and am secure in the knowledge that my most precious husband will understand and love me anyway.
The perfect relationship with someone else actually begins with us. The most important thing we need to do is to be what we want to attract. So if we want a beloved relationship, one of unconditional love, of caring and respect and honor, then we must feel all of these things for our self.
The perfect relationship doesn’t mean you never get upset or angry or hurt. What it does mean is that you can take responsibility for those feelings and work through them without blaming the other person.
It means that with total self-love you enter into the relationship knowing that you are worthy, beautiful, strong, wise and kind and that you don’t need the relationship to show you these things about yourself.
Now doesn’t that take a lot of the pressure off of each individual in the relationship? Things flow, you can have fun and there are no conditions upon which you share your love. You both come to the table loving yourselves unconditionally and that love flows steadily back and forth between you in waves of joy, peace and passion.
It’s not about the things we give each other but the feelings we share. And we can only share what we feel inside us. So if what you’re sharing isn’t what you’d like, maybe it’s time to make a change from the inside and share what you really want on the outside.
With love and blessings,
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