Friday, January 28, 2011

Boring has no meaning when we live in the now


How many times have you caught yourself saying, “This is boring,” when referring to a task, event, movie, work or experience? Have you ever looked at exactly why it seems boring?

We are always looking to feel a certain way, usually happy, fulfilled, peaceful, joyful. And generally if we are not getting any of those feelings from what we are doing we will most likely find it boring.

When we are not connected to our own source of happiness, peace, love and joy, we will find ourselves looking in the world for it and usually only finding momentary satisfaction.

By living in the present and focusing on what is right in front of us in this moment, we can stay connected to all of these things and magically time disappears no matter what we are doing banishing the word boring from our vocabulary.

Staying present is not always easy, however and there is usually some work that may have to be done in order to be in the moment.

Some of that work includes be aware of when we are if we find ourselves not in the moment. Usually we are in the past – worrying or angry about something that happened before – or in the future – creating a story about what MIGHT happen tomorrow and either worrying or angry about that.

Once we are aware of when we are we can look at it and question how true or valid our feelings about it are today. We often go along in life never questioning how we feel about things and then when we do, we realize our whole outlook on it has changed.

Let go of the past and leave the future to be what it is – non-existent. The past is over and the future will never come. Being in the present is where it’s at – and in the present everything is perfect and certainly never boring!

Love and blessings
Bettina


Make 2011 a year of transformation. Make your life a positive experience. Join us for one of our upcoming workshops, or contact us for a free 15 minute consultation to discuss how we can help you transform your life: Check our website at: www.thesoulconnection.ca for more information about our upcoming workshops, seminars, products and one-on-one, couples or group sessions that we offer.

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Seven Things About Me

I was recently awarded a blog award by the very talented and creative Chania at razmataz. Her blogs always inspire me, not only in the area of home decorating but in so many other ways.

So as a recipient of this award I am to write seven things about myself that people might not know. Here they are:

l. I am very domestic. I loved being a stay at home mom, taking care of the house and all the domestic duties. I sometimes miss it now that I am working more.
2. I am passionate about chocolate. And I don't mean just eating it but making it. I make it every chance I get. I even started a little side company for selling my wares, called Evolution Chocolate. I love the process of tempering the chocolate and making homemade fillings and ingredients. I like knowing what the ingredients are too.
3. I love my work as a Life Coach. There is nothing more fulfilling than helping someone transform their life and watching as the realization dawns on them that things can and do change. It's an amazing feeling to send them off to do just that. It's about spreading joy to everyone I meet, sharing what I've learned from my own experience and allowing others to be just exactly who they are and loving it all.
4. I love children - any size, any age - babies, toddlers, tweens, teens and even young adults. Children still have the innocence that we, as adults, are all looking for. They can teach us so much about life, about feeling and about facing our pain full on, no holds barred. If only we would allow them to do it freely.
5. I am old fashioned and swear I was born too late. I love making everything from scratch, whether it's food, clothing, home decor items. I see something in the store and my first thought is, "I bet I can make that myself". Not to save money but just for the sense of accomplishment that comes from a job well done.
6. I love to paint. Not pictures but walls. Not so much using the roller but cutting in. My father taught me how to cut in many years ago and I've had a lot of practice. Sometimes when my husband, the renovator, has a painting job to go to, I go and help him. I cut in, he rollers. I find there is something very meditative about cutting in. A good lesson in being present and focussed.
7. I am a singer. Not a platinum record classed singer but a singer none-the-less. I sing around the house, in the car, in public. I've sung in church choirs, cantored, and was even in The Sound of Music in grade seven. A few years ago I actually took singing lessons and loved it. I would practice every chance I get. My secret dream is to have enough courage to sing in front of an audience bigger than 10 people.

And now I would like to send this award out to the following blogs who are constantly inspiring me, teaching me and making me laugh:

1. Be The Role Model - because we all want to be better parents and Jo-Anne has a great way of sharing how we can.

2. Gluten-free Goddess - because with all the allergies and food sensitivities, her fantastic recipes are a refreshing alternative to the things we can't always eat.

3. The Inner Workout - because every day can be whatever we want it to be if we let go of our fear. Colleen shares her unique perspective and inspires people to find their connection to who they are.

And thank you Chania for the honor of being on your list and for this award. What you share is truly inspiring in every way.

Friday, January 21, 2011

A Desire for Change – Where does it come from?


Are you someone who moves a lot, changes jobs on a regular basis, cannot stay in a long term relationship or generally creates change in your world to feel good?

We’ve learned through our lives that the way to feel happy is to find something or someone out in the world who can do that for us. Eventually we discover that this doesn’t work very well and that no matter how much retail therapy, how many friends, how great our partner is, we still don’t feel the way we want to.

This is because we are doing things backwards. Instead of looking into the world for something to make us happy, what will really work is looking within.

When we meet someone and feel the connection, the spark, the great feeling, it’s not because that person is giving it to us. It’s because the person is a mirror reflection of what we are feeling inside and being with them reminds us of that connection to our love and joy. The same things happens when we buy a new outfit and feel fantastic in it. It’s not the outfit that gives us that feeling, but rather the outfit is a reminder that those feelings are within us and we can connect with them any time we want. All we have to do is remember this so we can connect with it every day.

And if we can’t connect with those feelings every day it’s because we have beliefs, feelings and thoughts that are telling us otherwise. And we’re listening to them!

Listening to the ego can take us away from our connection to peace, love and joy. Ignoring what the ego is telling us and listening to our heart can bring us to the feelings we are all looking for.

Until we change how we see the world and what we expect from it, we can never feel the absolute freedom of true peace, joy and love and our lives will fall short of our expectations.

Looking within is the key to living the life we desire.

Bettina


Make 2011 a year of transformation. Make your life a positive experience. Join us for one of our upcoming workshops, or contact us for a free 15 minute consultation to discuss how we can help you transform your life: Check our website at: www.thesoulconnection.ca for more information about other workshops, seminars, products and one-on-one, couples or group sessions that we offer.

Friday, January 14, 2011

Manifest Your World from Within

There are a lot of teachings out there about how to manifest what we desire in our lives. And it’s so easy to get caught up in it all and want to be able to manifest, but it doesn’t always work the way we want it and we often find ourselves wondering what went wrong and why we still don’t have the life we want.

Desire is a tricky thing. And we can sometimes confuse desire with neediness. We want something so badly that we forget to let it go so that the universe can do its work. That’s neediness.

Desire is when we want to see something in our lives and then we let go of the outcome of it. We put the intention out to God or the universe and then we give the space necessary for it all to happen.

Neediness is when we hang on to the desire so tightly that we try to control everything and everyone in order to make it come to fruition. We think we have control over. But guess what? We don’t. We are helpless to do anything about whether something happens or it doesn’t, whether we get what we want or not.

So the most important aspect of manifesting our desires is having the courage to let them go, to feel unattached to whether they are created or not, to allow it to evolve as it is meant to.

On the other hand, it is a good idea to be aware that the answer to our prayers is not always what we are expecting. We may ask for a wonderful new relationship to come into our lives so we can feel loved. And we end up more alone than ever. What we don’t realize is that what the universe has sent us is a better solution to what we’re looking for.

Because loneliness can bring us into ourselves to look at why we feel this way and then discover a way to find the love within ourselves. And when that occurs, the possibilities are endless, our opportunities are limitless and all because we no longer need them to even happen.

When we desire something we are usually looking for a feeling more than an outward solution. Looking at our desires from this different perspective, at the deeper meaning behind them, we can find the answers in our hearts, not in the world.

Everything that we desire is always within us. There is no need to look into the world. And when we discover this to be true, the world will greet us with all that we desire anyway.

Go figure!

Have a great week of living the possibilities within.

With love and blessings
Bettina

Make 2011 a year of transformation. Make your life a positive experience. Join us for one of our upcoming workshops, or contact us for a free 15 minute consultation to discuss how we can help you transform your life: Check our website at: www.thesoulconnection.ca for more information about other workshops, seminars, products and one-on-one, couples or group sessions that we offer.

Friday, January 7, 2011

Staying Positive in a Negative Situation

So you’ve made the decision to be more positive and upbeat in your life as a step to feeling happier and maybe achieving some goals you’ve set. And it’s all going really well, until you step into an environment, perhaps your job, your family situation or some other experience, that is full of negativity. What do you do then?

The first thing to look at is what makes the environment negative. If we look at it from our own perspective which is how we look at all of life, then our perspective (or judgment) is what makes it negative.

It is what it is, no if’s ands or buts. It is our perception, which is based on our belief system that creates positive and negative judgment. And when what is happening doesn’t meet with our belief system we find it difficult to accept what is happening.

Another person might look at the same situation and see no negativity whatsoever about it. Again, it is their perception that creates this judgment.

So how do we function positively in a negative environment? We can look at what the experience is showing us about ourselves. We can examine what the belief is that creates the negative perception and we can shift that belief to a more positive one.

We can think positively all we want, but if there are still negative beliefs hanging about inside us, we will never convince ourselves of anything different.

Review the belief, question if it still holds true for you, or even why you need it so much. Does it serve you now? If it’s no longer valid, remove it from your repertoire. Allow it to fall away.

You’ll be surprised at how the negative environment will change. (Or is it you that changed?)

May all your experiences be perceived as positive.

Bettina

Make 2011 a year of transformation. Make your life a positive experience. Join us for one of our upcoming workshops: Our next workshop is Connecting to the Divine Goddess Within on Wed. Jan 12. Check our at: www.thesoulconnection.ca for more information about other workshops, seminars, products and one-on-one, couples or group sessions that we offer.

Monday, January 3, 2011

New Year’s Resolutions – Why do we make them?

New Year’s Resolutions – Why do we make them?

Most of us, at one time or another, have made New Year’s Resolutions. But how many of us are still aware and following those resolutions by the end of the year, or even by the end of January for that matter?

The end of the year comes and we are filled with the promise of a fresh start in a new year, will immeasurable possibilities before us. We want to lose weight, get fit, be healthier, quite smoking, etc. etc. All great and admirable desires and probably very good for us too!

But by the second week of January, somewhere, somehow, we have lost that feeling that lead us to want to change things in the first place. And resolutions are forgotten, dropped by the wayside never to be mentioned again.

Why is it that we can’t stick with them?

Anything we do creates a feeling of good or bad in us. A long look at the year we have just muddled our way through can sometimes cause feelings of not being good enough, not enjoying life enough, unsuccessful or just plain blah.

And so in an attempt to make ourselves feel better, we make a list of all the things that we think are going to make us feel better about ourselves – almost always physical, material or outward things.

It’s a like being in a relationship – it starts with fire and passion and gradually falls off into a rather slow simmer.

If we are looking to feel better about ourselves, if we want to be happier, feel more loved, find more peace or just feel content, then outward things are not going to do it for us long term. We will never be thin enough, healthy enough, happy enough, well you get the picture.

Looking within to find the real reasons why we can’t connect to our self-worth, love and peace is the best way to find those feelings for ourselves. Then we don’t have to rely on other people or things to create it for us.

This year I didn’t make resolutions. Instead I decided to set intentions for the upcoming year. And in setting those intentions, to do whatever inner work was necessary to accomplish what I was looking for in terms of how I feel about myself and my life.

Most of the intentions were centered in a more loving, compassionate and respectful place. Living more from this place will always change how life presents itself to you. And every word and action that comes from a peaceful, loving place is perfect in every way.

Feel the richness of your life not your bank account.
Grow deeper in your relationships with others by growing deeper in your relationship with yourself.
Create a healthy environment for yourself and others emotionally, physically and mentally.
Speak your truth with love, compassion and respect.
Be conscious and aware at all times of who you are and what you are feeling.
Be more accepting of what is in front of you and be grateful for whatever it is.
Strive to feel more a part of God in every moment of every day. For it is in this place that life unfolds as a beautiful and wondrous thing.

May this year be a year in which you feel the good in everyone and everything.

With love and blessings
Bettina

Make 2011 a year of transformation. Make your life what you want it to be. Join us for one of our upcoming workshops: Our next workshop is Connecting to the Divine Goddess Within on Wed. Jan 12. Check our at: www.thesoulconnection.ca for more information about other workshops, seminars, products and one-on-one, couples or group sessions that we offer.