Thursday, December 8, 2011

Creating a Safe Space


Sometimes the people in our lives find themselves feeling unhappy, discontented, and stressed. We want to be able to help the people we love but we don’t always know what the right thing to do is.

We don’t always know the right thing to say or do and we often impart upon the other person our sage advice as to how to handle their current situation and make it better. We can even side with them when they are angry with someone else. We often feel a desire to want to fix it for the other person.

No one can “fix” it for anyone else. The only person who can change the way they feel about a certain situation is the person themselves.

The best thing we can do for another person when they are struggling with life is to create a safe and sacred space where they can express themselves without fear of recrimination, judgment or criticism.

What does creating a safe space mean exactly?

It means that we stay centred and balanced, connected to our own divine love so that the other person can be and say whatever they need to at this point in time. We can be supportive without enabling, compassionate without joining them in criticizing someone else and loving without contributing to their unhealthy thinking. When the walls of their life are crashing down around them we can hold them up while they figure out what to do about it.

Allowing someone to figure it out for themselves is the best way for them to find the perfect answer to their problem, looking to themselves as the source of the solution.

Let them go and trust that they will find their own way supported by your love and positive energy. Continue to hold that space of positive energy for them as they walk and fall, walk and fall and finally come out on the other side feeling more positive and connected themselves.

Even if it is your children that are struggling, be there for them as they find their own way to the lighter side of life.

Trust, love, stay centred, let go and listen with love. That is all.

With love and kindness
Bettina

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1 comment:

  1. Thank you for this article....just what i needed to hear as I found myself talking too much for the millionth time.

    Some people say you have to talk to your kids and when you do, you find yourself talking too much. Where's the balance/ when is it important to talk and when do you stay quiet?

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