Are you a good listener? I mean, a really good listener. One who listens from the heart, really staying present with the other person, creating the space for them to share and hearing what they are saying.
It’s not easy to do. We often listen from our head, constantly thinking of what we want to say next and totally missing what the other person is saying to us. Sometimes it’s because we have a desire to be heard and perhaps in our lives we have not had that opportunity. And sometimes it’s because we want to show how smart or wise we are, to feel good about ourselves and to be helpful to another.
But what if we took our heads or ego out of the equation and really moved into our heart, allowing the space for someone else to speak; so they will know that what they have to say is important?
My father always says, “If you’re talking, you’re not learning.” And truer words were never spoken. We can learn so much about others, about ourselves if we stop to listen, to really be present with a conversation.
Thinking about what we want to say next is not living present. It is looking to the future where we think our happiness lies. Letting go of our need to be happy, feel good about ourselves, or be the savior for someone, can free us up to really listen and hear, and to respond with true wisdom and love.
Most communication problems come from a lack of attention to really listening to each other. So if you are having problems communicating with someone in your life, take a look at not how you convey your side of the story, but how well you listen to the other person’s.
Give it a go and let me know how it goes for you. Do you see a difference? I’d love to hear your experiences! Just leave a comment below or email me at: Bettina@thesoulconnection.ca
With love and blessings,Bettina
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