Saturday, September 25, 2010

Women - Finding Your Voice

Through the ages women have gone from being in a position of great power in the ancient times of the Goddess to being repressed by the change in power to a more male dominated society.

In the past century women have been attempting to regain their power in a man’s world.

One thing that I’ve observed is that this attempt is often made through aggressiveness, anger and degrading men or “man bashing”. And what I’ve discovered is that it hasn’t allowed women to become empowered as much as it has conquered and divided the sexes, leaving a lot of frustration, resentment and just plain disconnection.

So how do we empower ourselves so that we can have our cake and eat it too? There is nothing wrong with women feeling equal and as worthy as men when it comes to career, family, money and numerous other things.

But when we try to do this from an angry or forceful place, we are not empowered. When we allow someone to trigger us, or bring up anything in us that is not love, we are handing our power over to them.

Instead we can look at what we are feeling in those moments of feeling powerless and try to understand what it is that makes us behave in a less than loving way. Why do we need to feel more powerful than men or other women for that matter?

When we understand and are aware of what is going on inside ourselves, we can make the necessary changes that can allow us to feel empowered, to stand up for ourselves from a place of freedom, love and respect. This means never having to put someone else down to feel better ourselves.

What feelings are you looking for in the world? Find ways in which you can feel these feelings within you without depending on others to give it over to you. When we expect our worth, love, peace and happiness to come from someone else, again, we are giving them our power.

When we connect to our worth, love, peace and happiness within, we are empowered and the world is our heaven.

Which will you choose? The way of the Goddess or the way of the Tyrant. We have a choice.

Join us for our upcoming workshop, “Connecting to the Divine Goddess”. Learn to connect to the Divine Goddess within which is the source of wisdom, love, compassion and strength. Find your voice from your inner power and peace. This can benefit any woman who wants to live a more fulfilling and meaningful life. For more information please go to www.thesoulconnection.ca/events.html

I facilitate private one-on-one sessions in person, via phone, Skype or email. If you are interested in our upcoming weekly Group Meetings, workshops, meditation classes or private one-on-one sessions please visit my website at www.thesoulconnection.ca

Bettina 

Friday, September 17, 2010

There but for the Grace of God...

Some time ago I realized that I spent a lot of my time in judgment. It was not who I saw myself as and I wanted to change this pattern. Doing so would create more self-worth, self-love and respect and those were all qualities I wanted to have. So I adopted the statement, "There but for the Grace of God go I", sometimes shortened to "it could be me."

So any time I was upset or not feeling great and wanted to make a judgment about someone, I would say "it could be me", meaning, it could just as easily have been me behaving that way, or speaking that way. Would I want someone else to judge me? Would I want them admonishing me, yelling at me, thinking badly of me?

After all, if I did something that was unacceptable to someone else, I may have a very good reason for it. If I cut someone off in traffic it may be because I was preoccupied by something that upset me and wasn't paying proper attention. I'd probably feel silly about having done it and would no doubt be admonishing myself about it. And it's absolutely certain that I would apologize if I could.

So why, when someone else does the very thing that we could just have easily find ourselves doing, do we judge them?

Judgment is something that permeates every part of our lives. It's negative and sometimes hurtful and can change the mood of a situation in a flash. Whether we are judging others or ourselves, we are not acting from our loving heart.

If we try to see the situation from the other person's perspective, chances are we can find compassion and kindness rather than judgment.

We can't change what has happened, but we can change our reaction to it and how it affects us.

When we judge, we give our power away. When we centre ourselves in acceptance we are empowered and peaceful. And we respond with a loving heart.

Choose to wear your loving heart on your sleeve today.

Join us for our upcoming workshop, "Conscious Relationships". Create a deeper, more meaningful relationship with those you are in relationship with. Learn tools and information that can help you communicate in a more loving way in all relationships, even divorce! Find your way back to that loving feeling you had when you first met.  For more information please go to www.thesoulconnection.ca/events.html

I facilitate private one-on-one sessions in person, via phone, Skype or email. If you are interested in our upcoming weekly Group Meetings, workshops, meditation classes or private one-on-one sessions please visit my website at www.thesoulconnection.ca

Bettina 

Friday, September 10, 2010

When Opportunity Knocks – don't be afraid, open the door

When we think of opportunity we often think of good, positive things that bring us closer to our goals or desires. We don't usually think that opportunity will come in the form of a bad experience.

But in reality, a bad experience can be the best type of opportunity if we let it be. We can take the situation and learn more about ourselves, delve deeper into our belief system and perhaps even be aware of some of the painful emotions, thoughts and beliefs that are living inside us - you know the ones that we are too afraid to look at.

It's not as painful as we imagine it to be, looking at why we feel miserable. In fact, the thought of facing it is far worse than actually stepping into the actual pain. Try it some time!

When you are feeling upset by a situation or what someone has said to you, take a breath and allow what you are feeling to flow, no pushing back against it. Accept it, breathe into it, observe it with interest. How does it affect you physically, emotionally, spiritually? Where does the feeling come from? Is there a belief that is creating this feeling? Explore all the possibilities and let go of what is no longer needed or wanted.

And feel the gratitude for the opportunity that has brought you to a new level of understanding, peace and joy.

I'd love you to share your experiences with me either as a comment here or in email.

Join us for our upcoming workshop, "Conscious Relationships". Create a deeper, more meaningful relationship with your partner, find better ways of communicating so that issues are resolved quickly and peacefully. Find your way back to that loving feeling you had when you first met.  For more information please go to www.thesoulconnection.ca/events.html

I facilitate private one-on-one sessions in person, via phone, Skype or email. If you are interested in our upcoming weekly Group Meetings, workshops, meditation classes or private one-on-one sessions please visit my website at www.thesoulconnection.ca

Bettina