Saturday, July 31, 2010

Back to the Future

Ah, home again after a ten day vacation that included a week at a cottage in Prince Edward Island and a few days on the road touring around.

It's always a little tough to get back to routine after being away on a relaxing holiday. But eventually you settle back in and things get back to normal. What is sometimes a little more difficult is to keep that peaceful feeling you so easily felt while away from the hustle and bustle of life and all it's sometimes chaos.

While away, I spent some time reading books I'd left unread on the nightstand table for some time as well as a new book leant to me by a friend. It felt good to have the space and time to read again. Why do I never seem to have time at home? And what about all those crafty things I used to enjoy doing so much – knitting, sewing, needlework? They've all fallen by the wayside over the years as the computer seems to have taken over. A faster paced life, more busyness, distractions and drama have all seemed to work their way into my life and the time that I used to cherish where I just relaxed and enjoyed the peace and quiet of my own space around has vanished somehow.

I vowed on my return that I would find the time to do all those things I used to love doing. There is something I miss about them. Maybe it is the peace I feel when doing them.

At any rate, the vow is in place and hopefully the commitment will follow to read more, write more, meditate (which I always seem to find time for), knit and try a new old craft I discovered while visiting Avonlea in P.E.I. - rug hooking.

I've been wondering how to keep this commitment to myself and what it is that might keep me from sticking with it when everyday life starts distracting me. And it doesn't lie in pushing myself to do what it is I supposedly love doing, but in the feelings that cause me to find distraction like the computer more easily. It's fast, it's fun and you get instant gratification - sending an email and minutes, no, seconds later receiving a reply. There are games that can keep you so focused you don't have to be with yourself.

And that is the key I think. Being able to just be with yourself without distraction, without something to fill every waking minute. Allowing yourself to just enjoy your own company even if it means you learn something new about yourself that you don't necessarily like. It's still ok! That's part of what it's all about. Finding out who you are and that is not going to be found in front of a game of Bejewelled my friend. That can only be found by looking inside.

I'd love to hear from you what kinds of things you used to love to do but have somehow let go of over the years in favor of Facebook, Twitter and text messaging. Leave your comments here or email me at Bettina@thesoulconnection.ca

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Bettina

Monday, July 19, 2010

Accepting the Ebb and Flow of Life

I'm sitting on the porch of the cottage listening to the ocean below the dunes as the waves roll in and out. We have come to the north shore of Prince Edward Island for a vacation, to enjoy the beauty, rest and relaxation of a province that is far more gentle and slow-moving than others in our country.

I watch as the cool breeze coaxes the dune grass to one side and the grass obliges, allowing the wind to bend it in whatever direction it wants. I watch the fluffy white clouds glide across the clear blue sky with effortless fluidity. And I listen to the waves. From my place on the porch I can see the water as it flows across the beach, sometimes gently at low tide and sometimes with a little more force when the tide is high. Little white caps form, but nothing threatening.

I am inspired and I relate this scene to life. Funny how being in this geographical place, I can be so relaxed and free, feel inspired and allow life to flow. And yet when I return home and try to let that feeling remain within me, life starts to get in the way, distractions, frustrations, little personal things that knock me out of my wonderful bliss to show me that real life isn't always as beautiful and pristine as this beach here in P.E.I.

Maybe I cannot take the beach home with me or even stay here at the beach forever but what I can do is take the feeling with me, learn from nature as I watch it now. I can learn to go with the ebb and flow of life, allowing it to take me wherever it wants to without complaint or judgment, just like the dune grass bends to the winds will. This is something I can emulate in my daily life.

I can take a page from the book of the beach as the ocean rolls against the sand and the sand begins to reshape as time goes by, letting the water find it's own path. Oh yes there are huge lessons to be learned from this experience and I am embracing them all.

And as we drive away a week from now with just a hint of sadness, I will take with me these lessons of acceptance, peace and love and working with instead of against the universe.

The vacation will live forever in my heart and soul as I begin to flow even more with life itself.

Join the flow of life and see where it takes you. Find ways to allow yourself to be carried along as life unfolds. Feel it in every fibre of your being as you enjoy whatever comes your way.


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Bettina

Monday, July 12, 2010

The Ego’s Last-ditch Effort to be in Control

We all come to a time on our journey where we have let go of most of our attachment to the ego and its insanity.

It is at this point that the ego begins to realize that it is about to be dethroned and starts to rage against this new development with all the ammunition it can muster.

It is constantly "in your face" with all sorts of thoughts and ideas that, in the past, worked like a charm but may no longer be working. Time to step up the game, it decides, as it throws every possible negative thought, idea and belief your way in the hopes that you will grab on to any part of it.

With non-stop attempts to bring you down to your knees with the pain of the past, it continues to natter away at you, hoping that you will eventually give in and listen to its non-sensical chatter.

Having already been through all of it, healing whatever needed to be healed within, finding a peace that can only be found within the heart and soul, you ignore the ego's demands and resistance to your newfound freedom.

You are different now. You know that the ego makes no sense, that the ego never knows what it wants, only what it doesn’t want. You can see the insanity from the perspective of the observer, not judging, not fighting it, but allowing it to have its voice without falling headlong into its trap.

This is the step that takes us from a life that is driven to a life of peace, love, compassion and purpose.

We don't have to abolish the ego. After all it is an integral part of our human existence. But we can live in harmony with it, letting it chatter away and loving it no matter what it wants us to do. The difference now is that we don't have to follow it to the ends of the earth in search of something that is truly only found within us.

Hear it but don't attach to it.
Love it but don't condone it.
Have compassion for its sense of loss when it is no longer needed.
Be at peace no matter what it is telling you to say or do.

Please visit our website for information on upcoming workshops at www.thesoulconnection.ca

I facilitate private one-on-one sessions in person, via phone, Skype or email. If you are interested in our upcoming weekly Group Meetings, workshops, meditation classes or private one-on-one sessions please visit my website at www.thesoulconnection.ca

Bettina