Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Change in the World Begins Within

There is always talk about how the world needs to change. There is so much anger and hatred in the world and we all want to see more peace and love spread throughout this earth of ours.

We sometimes get stuck in a place of no change because we want to see global change and we don’t believe we can do anything alone to create it. But what if everyone had the same thought? What if we all got stuck in that place and never did anything to shift our own consciousness? The world would continue to be rife with disaster, death and hatred.

It only takes one small step to start a shift that can inspire the world. One simple change like a pebble in a lake that causes ripples to move outward and affect everyone around us.

We cannot change the world outwardly. We cannot go out into our surroundings and force people to change how they think and feel. We can only change what we think and feel within ourselves.

If we feel anger, we will see anger in the world. If we feel fear, we will see fear. If we feel hatred, hatred will show up in our lives.

The prayer of St. Francis of Assisi is a strong testament as to how we can see and effect changes in the world:

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen

Unconditional love and peace is the one thing that will bring forth love and peace in the world. When we find it and connect with it inside ourselves we will see it in the world.

Allow yourself to let go of anger, hatred and fear and feel the love and peace that is the truth of who you are.
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Bettina

Monday, April 26, 2010

Conscious Living

Conscious Living and relationships are such an important way to live a happier and more fulfilling life.
Recently Peter and I were interviewed about Conscious Living. Enjoy!



Bettina

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Blame

Blame is one of the biggest issues that we come up against in our daily life. We seem to have gotten the idea that the world is there to make us happy. And when that doesn't happen we lay the blame out in the world as well, through other people, places or events that we think are the cause of our unhappiness.

Everything we feel comes from within us. We create it and we live through it. If we create unhappiness for ourselves the world will show us that unhappiness, but if we create joy, peace and love for ourselves, this is what we will see reflected back.

So, how does blame fit in to this mix? Simply, it doesn't. When we get angry at another person for doing something that brings up our anger, fear or hurt, we are doing nothing more than projecting the anger we feel at ourselves for not taking better care of what we are feeling, for not nurturing our own self and if necessary standing up for ourselves from that tranquil, peaceful place inside.

We have choices. We don't always think we do. But there are always choices - we sometimes would rather take the easier of the choices, the ones that keep us in our comfort zone. But how comfortable is it really when we are then triggered by someone else's behaviour?

Sometimes we just have to go beyond our comfort zone which may mean facing some things about ourselves that we don't like. Perhaps we are feeling like a victim and don't stand up for ourselves or speak up when we are not feeling respect. Maybe we are afraid of a situation so we run away from it instead of empowering ourselves by facing it with inner strength.

Whatever the issue is, we have a choice every day to face it with fear, anger, guilt, or shame or with love, compassion, and peace. We can take responsibility for our own emotional wellbeing or we can give that power to someone else and then resent it.

How will you walk into your day?

If you are interested in our upcoming weekly Group Meetings, workshops, meditation classes or private one-on-one sessions please visit my website at www.thesoulconnection.ca

Bettina 

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

It's All About the Drama

Our lives can often be filled with drama not only our own dramas but those of others as well. We can get caught up in something that another person is sharing with us and we make it ours. We get so involved in the situation that we end up doing or saying things that are not loving and kind. Or we get so embroiled in our own drama we can't find our way out.

We get caught up in the drama, we talk about it over and over again, keeping the negative energy of the experience alive. "How could he say that to me?" or "I can’t believe they treated me that way." We figure that if we just get it out, vent a bit, it will go away. And yet we find ourselves repeating over and over again the same story until even we can't stand to hear it. The story lives on and we make it a part of our identity.

Giving a negative experience too much air time can only serve to keep us in a negative state holding on to a victim mentality. Dwelling on the drama puts us into a place where we feel that we are being done wrong, that the particular situation was created in order to offend, hurt, disappoint, anger or upset us.

This is a time when trying to see things from the other person's perspective can help. Maybe the other person felt angry, hurt, disappointed, or afraid. Maybe something happened previously that brought up these emotions for them and they were reacting from that emotion.

We do not always know what is behind another person's actions or words. Unless we ask, or try to get clarity in a situation, we will not be able to resolve the issue not only with them but within ourselves.

If the experience is bringing up negative emotions in us, we must look at why they were triggered and look at healing that issue within us.

Try to see the situation from the other person's point of view. Look at what it is in you that causes you to react to the situation the way you do. There is usually something deeper behind the reaction – look for it, find your way through it and in doing so find the compassion you need for yourself as well as the other person.

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Bettina